If you are wondering if God has plans for you as a teacher in “all the world,” then maybe this short evaluation will help you make a choice (Matt. 28:18-20).

Growing up, I had a lot of dreams about what I wanted to be.  Having read accounts of Albert Schweitzer and his outstanding work in my school studies, I was inspired to adopt lots of children the way he had.  Children are helpless without someone to stand for them, but my lack of connections or money would not make that dream possible.  Some time later, I set my sights to be a fabric designer or a schoolteacher.  I loved to paint and would eventually teach art, music and English in more than one state.  The philosopher part of my career would not blossom like I thought it might because my husband to be would have his own ideas and plans.  However, there was one career that was never on my radar.

I never seriously considered being, or marrying, anyone who lived on foreign soil even though I admired Albert Schweitzer very much.  Maybe that was because Albert Schweitzer was only in LIFE MAGAZINE or POST; he was not ‘real.’  Our family did have a favorite cousin whose husband had worked and died in South Africa and who had written and published book about it.  As a young girl, accounts of her life seemed brutal—too harsh to my taste.

Not that living outside the state of Texas was a bad thing, I just saw the ones who left home as those who weren’t real.  Reading that Schweitzer was living in a grass hut when a goat had come during the night to eat the paper on which he had just written a symphony made me cringe.  Dedicated men and women who chose to “go into all the world) had to live differently than everyone else.  It just wasn’t something I saw myself doing. It wasn’t something I could ever see myself capable of doing.

As I was growing up, my family was well known in the community; to me, dad and mother were strong leaders and sages all rolled into one.  My dad’s career was not like most other men’s.  He was set apart as a Government employee for soil conservation and a prudent landowner too—not wealthy, but comfortable.

It’s really comforting to know God has a way of guiding our paths (Prov. 20:24; Eph. 1:11-12). During my childhood I went to church because my mom and dad loved the Lord and his people, and because that was just what we did.  We never missed.  I loved going to church too and enjoyed answering questions in Bible classes.  When I was 14, one of the elders approached me to see if I would be willing to teach a class of fourth graders during vacation Bible school the next morning.  I don’t remember why they asked me at the last minute, but likely it was because the main teacher became ill.  Something in me said, “Beth, you can do this,” and so I did.  Looking back now, I am sure my parents prayed a lot for me that week.

The seed was planted.

Before that, I had never once thought about being a Bible class teacher but that little request would be a mustard seed planted in my heart that would be watered in the coming years.

When I went away to college at age 18, I happily took a regular Wednesday evening class of 20 little first graders at another elder’s request.

It was that group of kids that really captured my heart.

It was during that semester of my life that I dedicated my “heart and mind” to do whatever God wanted me to do.

I determined to follow the Lord and put on the new man (Eph. 2:15; Eph. 4:24; Col. 3:10), thus watering the seed of faith that was planted earlier by that first elder who saw hope in me.


One of the most important decisions a person will ever make is about who they marry.  Christians should always and only marry faithful Christians (2 Cor. 6:14-18). Both parents and children must do their part to ensure that this is what happens (2 Tim. 2:2).

Let us take a look at some sobering statistics based on a study of two churches of Christ in America.

The first is the Church of Christ, B Street, Miami, Oklahoma (1957-1977).  In these years, only 45% of the marriages (64 out of 143) were Christian to Christian.  Is it any wonder why the church was growing so weak during these years?  When Christians married non-Christians, 79% of Christians left the faith, and 32% divorced.  When Christians married Christians, 92% remained faithful, and only 3% divorced.

Another example is the Bridges Street Church of Christ, Wynne, Arkansas (1962-1981).  In these years, only 27% of the marriages (28 out of 104) were between Christians.  When Christians married non-Christians, 80% of Christians left the faith, and 30% divorced.  When Christians married Christians, 86% remained faithful, and 14% divorced.

Overall, 63% of marriages in the two congregations were Christian to non-Christian; of these, 76% of Christians became unfaithful, and 31% divorced.  In Christian-to-Christian marriages, 90% remained faithful, and only 6.5% divorced.

Statistics aren’t the reason we should do anything, but they certainly demonstrate God’s wisdom.  In our secular work, our family relationships, our marriages, in business and in every aspect of our lives, we should show Christian behavior—integrity.


A Psalm of David. I will sing of mercy and judgment: unto thee, O LORD, will I sing.  2. I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.  2. I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.  4. A froward heart shall depart from me: I will not know a wicked person.  5. Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I cut off: him that hath an high look and a proud heart will not I suffer.  6. Mine eyes shall be upon the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me: he that walketh in a perfect way, he shall serve me.  7. He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.  8. I will early destroy all the wicked of the land; that I may cut off all wicked doers from the city of the LORD” (Psa. 101:1-8).


The Angel Oak is a popular attraction near Charleston, South Carolina (photo taken in early November 2017).  Barely visible near the trunk, are my daughter and son-in-law, who went to visit for the day.  Presently the live oak tree is recovering from damage sustained during hurricane HUGO and appears to be healthy, but not as symmetrical as it was when this photo was taken in 2010.


In the Old Testament Scriptures, ‘oak’ is used 15 times in fourteen different verses, but the word is not used in the New Testament Scriptures at all.

Gen 35:4  And they gave unto Jacob all the strange gods which were in their hand, and all their earrings which were in their ears; and Jacob hid them under the oak which was by Shechem.

Note that idol worshippers often stored their idols under the oak trees.

Gen 35:8  “But Deborah Rebekah’s nurse died, and she was buried beneath Bethel under an oak: and the name of it was called Allonbachuth.”

This tree had a name and may well have been as revered as the one in South Carolina, where weddings and other ceremonies are frequently held.  So far burials are not allowed under the Angel Oak.

Jos 24:26  And Joshua wrote these words in the book of the law of God, and took a great stone, and set it up there under an oak, that was by the sanctuary of the LORD.

Jdg 6:11  And there came an angel of the LORD, and sat under an oak which was in Ophrah, that pertained unto Joash the Abiezrite: and his son Gideon threshed wheat by the winepress, to hide it from the Midianites.

The Israelites were saved from enemy raiders after Gideon became involved.  His willingness to be used to deliver them was of special importance.

Jdg 6:19  And Gideon went in, and made ready a kid, and unleavened cakes of an ephah of flour: the flesh he put in a basket, and he put the broth in a pot, and brought it out unto him under the oak, and presented it.

2Sa 18:9  And Absalom met the servants of David. And Absalom rode upon a mule, and the mule went under the thick boughs of a great oak, and his head caught hold of the oak, and he was taken up between the heaven and the earth; and the mule that wasunder him went away.

With Absalom’s hair being his glory, it was also his destruction.  Maybe with this verse and the pictures of the oak we can visualize the whole scenario better.

2Sa 18:10  And a certain man saw it, and told Joab, and said, Behold, I saw Absalom hanged in an oak.

2Sa 18:14  Then said Joab, I may not tarry thus with thee. And he took three darts in his hand, and thrust them through the heart of Absalom, while he was yet alive in the midst of the oak.

1Ki 13:14  And went after the man of God, and found him sitting under an oak: and he said unto him, Art thou the man of God that camest from Judah? And he said, I am.

1Ch 10:12  They arose, all the valiant men, and took away the body of Saul, and the bodies of his sons, and brought them to Jabesh, and buried their bones under the oakin Jabesh, and fasted seven days.

Isa 1:30  For ye shall be as an oak whose leaf fadeth, and as a garden that hath no water.

Oak leaves fade and drop with the seasons.

Isa 6:13  But yet in it shall be a tenth, and it shall return, and shall be eaten: as a teil tree, and as an oak, whose substance is in them, when they cast their leaves: so the holy seed shall be the substance thereof.

Isa 44:14  He heweth him down cedars, and taketh the cypress and the oak, which he strengtheneth for himself among the trees of the forest: he planteth an ash, and the rain doth nourish it.

Eze 6:13  Then shall ye know that I am the LORD, when their slain men shall be among their idols round about their altars, upon every high hill, in all the tops of the mountains, and under every green tree, and under every thick oak, the place where they did offer sweet savour to all their idols.




“Love your wives and be not bitter against them” (Col. 3:19).  It will take time for wives to grow in submission (Col. 3:19), but husbands need to remember that the command to obey is for the wife to submit and NOT for the husband to force her to submit.

Husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it and love their wives as their own bodies (Eph. 5:25-28).  Putting yourself, your work, or anything else ahead of her is not consistent with this command.  The goal is to encourage (not demand) the wife to grow to be holy and without blemish (spiritually).  This love requires time, attention and a sincere concern for her physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being.

The wisdom that is from above is gentle, peaceable, and easy to be entreated (James 3:17).  God told Abraham to listen to Sarah.  Changing one’s mind is not a sign of weakness (Gen 21:12).


Obey your husbands as it is fit in the Lord (Col 3:18).  What is “fit” is for wives to be subject to their husbands “in every thing” as the church is to Christ (Eph. 5:22-24).  The only exception would be if he commanded her to disobey God (Acts 5:29).  The husband’s authority is in matters of judgment.  Submitting only when you agree with him or think he knows what he’s talking about is not submission.

A woman merely having short hair is a dishonor to her husband (1 Cor. 11:5).  How serious then are rebellious words and deeds towards him?

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that makes ashamed is as rottenness in his bones” (Prov. 12:4).



Train your children; don’t discourage them.  “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged” (Col 3:21).  “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord” (Eph. 6:4).

God puts the responsibility on the fathers for how the children are raised.  Fathers need to be actively involved in the rearing (training) of their children.  Providing for them physically is important, but the main job is to train them (Prov. 22:6).


Mothers have a responsibility to train children too.  “Train up a child in the  way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it (Pro. 22:6).  Love your children, be keepers at home (Titus 2:4-5). “Keepers at home” literally means, “house guard”; not just guarding their bodies, but most importantly, their souls (Study Proverbs 31:10-31 in depth).

Mothers have to learn from older Christian women how to have Gods love towards their children: this means they have to learn how to train the children the right way.  “The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed (Titus 2:3-5).

Timothy 5:14 tells mothers they are to literally be the “house despots.”  However, there should be one law (one set of rules) in the house, which flows from God, through the father, through the mother, and to the children (Prov. 6:20).  This requires much advance planning, discussion and praying by husbands and wives.  The mother is the enforcer of the family laws while the head of the house is away. Mothers who leave their children to themselves will be brought to shame (Prov. 29:15).


“Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord” (Col. 3:20).  Compare with Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right” (Eph. 6:1).  Obeying parents lasts for a few years; honoring them lasts a lifetime (1 Tim. 5:4816).